Lust and LuLu
Explanations Solicited
To Sir with Love (LuLu, September,1967) bears the message. From that back to Lolita (Nabokov, 1955), there is a spectrum.
There is that endlessly fascinating appeal of older men among some younger women. It may come to light in school girl obsessions about a particularly solid English school teacher, or later when the available men her own age are not what she wanted, or much later, perhaps following a first divorce that focused a woman’s attention and energy on the important things in life.
On the opposite side, for wildly successful men, the prize may be a trophy wife, sometimes far beyond his peak physical years. A devastatingly attractive young wife, may extend an old man’s natural longevity even if he can’t do anything about it.
Arm candy is a real thing.
Do we know why some daughters seek out the image of their father in same-age matches, and whether that differs in young women who are drawn to established men with decades of resources more than men their own age?
You have gold diggers; Daddy issue women; trophy seekers.
When some ancient arrives at a winery with a bit of arm fluff showing too much leg and cleavage to be his daughter, you just wink and murmur, you sly dog.
It is really quite interesting and simultaneously disturbing, on many levels.
To drift into the taboo, sons and mothers are not nearly as interesting as fathers and daughters.
They say women are drawn to men who make them feel safe at any age, and at any differential between ages. Or maybe it is the new red Ferrari he drives.
When do young women realize their Daddy issues will prevent them from physical, physiological satisfaction, unless he is much older? Appeal of the forbidden?
The psychologists still debate whether “Daddy Issues” are a real malady, and whence they arise. Or, is this nothing but normal?
Enlighten me, please.
Is it common in such a match, to leave the women wondering, when he reaches the age of high maintenance, why she made that choice as a young woman?